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What is compassion? Is it feeling sorry for ourselves? Is it pity? When we pity someone else we place ourselves above them, “poor so and so, I wouldn’t want to be having their life.” When we pity ourselves, it is also very negative, “it’s unfair what is happening to me, I don’t deserve the life I’m having, I’m being treated unfairly.” Or we beat ourselves up, why can’t i just get my act together, why can’t I control my habits, why am I so weak etc. Compassion is very different to the above.It isn’t negative and it isn’t passive. When we talk about compassion for others is it just for our friends, family, or people we like? That isn’t too hard. What about people who have hurt us, like our ex or someone who hurt us today? That’s hard. Some people would say too hard. Is it? The prefix com has the meaning of with, together, jointly. The word passion means a strong feeling or emotion. Lets examine. Self-Compassion What about self-compassion then? Can we feel that when we are beating ourselves up about our faults or the direction of our life? The answer is no. When we practice self-compassion, we are more able to accept our circumstances as they are and as we are, we are then in a calmer state and sometimes see more clearly the best way to deal with our problems. When we pity ourselves or our lot in life or feel sorry for ourselves we isolate ourselves and we feel lonely. When we practice self-compassion we see that suffering in some way or some of the time is part of the human condition and is experienced by all to some degree. That helps us to put our own problems in a proper perspective, we are not alone, we stand with all of humanity. It helps us to open up to others, we see they are in pain on some level and we feel connected to them. We are not alone. There are many other aspects to this quality, for example, forgiveness. When we are able to forgive ourselves then we are more able to be forgiving of others. When we practice self-compassion we are able to open up to feelings of gratitude. Yes, our situation might not be ideal but we are cared by how we feel toward our self and that’s something to be grateful for. We are also able to deal with others in a more compassionate way and that results in us having more meaningful relations with others and an increased level of satisfaction with ourselves and our life. How Do I Practice Compassion?? Great!! But how do I practice compassion? It begins with our acceptance of this as a way of going about our life. It can be as simple as putting our hand on our heart and reminding ourselves to be kind to ourselves and others. A woman came to see me a while back and explained that her son in his thirties had schizophrenia and lived with her. He was not treating her well and her friends had advised her to kick him out. I disagreed. People with mental health issues can be aggressive but they are also very sensitive. We talked about compassion and she came back next time and said her son was treating her differently and she couldn’t understand the change. He had picked up the change in how she felt and dealt with him although she hadn’t been consciously aware of it. Buddha taught a form of meditation called Metta, it means loving-kindness and is all about compassion, I recommend it. The feeling to bring up is like when we see a baby, smile and they smile back. It’s a very good feeling. We can invoke that without doing a formal meditation and in situations that are difficult. We can also send that feeling to someone we are dealing with and the results can be amazing. Personally, what helped me when I’ve gone through difficult times has been my belief that the universe is structured in macro and micro ways that are intricate patterns that are affected by how we think, feel and go about our lives. That it is always presenting opportunities for us to grow and that if we can be more tuned in to them our life can improve. Carl Jung called them synchronicity. We can’t always understand how they fit into the life we are experiencing but if we stay alert, we will see evidence of it all around us. So compassion can be easy to practice and it can be very difficult to practice but the more we can learn to practice it for ourselves and for others the richer our life can become. I’m not a meditation teacher but I can help if you have emotional blocks to showing compassion in certain situations but that does involve your being willing to at least consider letting go of what is holding you back. We have all had experiences where we were not shown compassion by others, they might have been our family or others in our childhood or adult life. The message from these experiences can remain in our emotional memory and energetic system and make it difficult for us to be compassionate toward ourselves and others. The good news is when we understand this we can by ourselves or with the help of someone doing energy work let go of this conditioning and free ourselves to have a richer and more loving life. It is what I wish for you. Energeticsbyrob.com.au

When you’re sensitive, you pick up on things others might miss. The subtle changes in someone’s tone, the energy in a room, the beauty in the little details. When the world is offering up joy or connection, we feel it deeply and it’s wonderful. But there’s a flip side too. When something negative happens, when someone says something hurtful or dismissive, we feel that deeply as well. We might want to block it out, push it down, pretend it didn’t affect us… but it lingers. Sensitivity means we carry things, sometimes long after they’ve passed. So What Can We Do? For me, the answer is this: feel into the pain, honour it, and then consciously choose to let it go. It’s a practice. Not something that happens overnight, but something we return to again and again. Over time, the energy starts to shift. It softens. Many of us have learned to put up walls to protect ourselves. But those walls don’t really stop the hurt. Instead, they limit our freedom. They disconnect us from others, block our natural flow, and leave us feeling confused or out of alignment. It’s also helpful to remember that sometimes, it’s not even about us. Often, it’s their pain being projected onto us. Can you see that? Can you hold compassion for them, even just a little? Can you recognise their struggle? In Buddhist teachings, there’s a practice called Metta, which means loving kindness. When I feel stuck, I send loving kindness to the person or the situation. I imagine that energy going out, softening what felt heavy or stuck. And if you’re finding it difficult to move through it, you're not alone. Sometimes old energy gets lodged deep, especially if it comes from early life experiences. If that feels familiar, come and see me. We can work together to gently clear what’s no longer serving you and create space for something lighter to come in.

Reiki, established by Mikao Usui in Japan during the 1920s, is a widely recognised energy-healing practice. It involves identifying and clearing energy blockages by channelling universal energy, promoting balance and harmony in the body and mind. While not formally acknowledged by Western medicine, many have found Reiki helpful for improving their overall well-being. If you’re searching for alternatives to Reiki in Brisbane, there are several powerful energy-healing modalities to explore. Each offers unique approaches to addressing energy imbalances and supporting emotional and physical health: 1. Havening Techniques Havening is an innovative technique designed to release emotional connections to traumatic memories stored in the brain’s amygdala. Through gentle touch and specific protocols, it helps soothe the nervous system, reduce stress, and promote emotional resilience. Havening is particularly effective for letting go of past experiences that continue to impact your well-being. 2. Tension & Trauma Releasing Exercises (TRE) TRE is a simple yet effective set of exercises that activate the body’s natural tremoring mechanism to release tension, stress, and trauma. This process, used by mammals in nature, is a safe way to downregulate the nervous system and restore a sense of calm. Many people find that TRE helps them move from feeling overwhelmed to experiencing balance and control in their lives. 3. Kinesiology Kinesiology is a holistic modality that uses muscle testing to access the subconscious mind, uncovering hidden causes of emotional, physical, or energetic blockages. By addressing these underlying issues, kinesiology helps to align the conscious and subconscious mind, facilitating deep and lasting healing. 4. Other Energy-Healing Modalities In addition to these techniques, there are other energy-based approaches that focus on releasing stuck energy and enhancing overall well-being. These modalities are tailored to meet individual needs, addressing a range of challenges to help you achieve balance and harmony. If you’re exploring energy-healing options in Brisbane, these modalities provide alternative paths to wellness, each with its own unique benefits. Whether you’re seeking relief from stress, resolving trauma, or simply aiming to feel more balanced, these approaches can support you on your journey. If any of these resonate with you, I’d love to help you work towards a more balanced, calm, and fulfilling life experience. Let’s take the first step together.

Havening is a science-backed somatic process that addresses trauma embedded in our nervous system. These deeply ingrained experiences often manifest as stress and difficulties in our daily lives. Havening can help not only to resolve past traumas but also to manage challenging events as they arise in the present. Furthermore, it can positively influence our future by reinforcing affirmations aligned with the life we desire or the person we aspire to be. Developed by Dr Ron Ruden, Havening is the product of years of research into the connection between the brain and body in healing trauma. Dr Ruden was inspired by energy healers who achieved significant results despite lacking scientific explanation. He embarked on neurological research to uncover how somatic techniques—methods involving the body—could facilitate healing from trauma. His findings revealed a process that effectively clears the emotional charge of traumatic memories stored in the amygdala, the part of the brain responsible for processing fear, anger, and other emotions. After a Havening session, individuals typically still remember the traumatic event, but the associated emotions—fear, anger, or shame—are neutralised. This allows people to move forward without the weight of these unresolved feelings affecting their current lives. The Science Behind Havening Havening works by leveraging the brain’s neuroplasticity, or its ability to rewire itself based on new experiences and stimuli. When a traumatic event occurs, the amygdala encodes emotional and sensory details, often attaching intense feelings to the memory. These feelings can resurface when triggered, creating stress and impeding daily life. The Havening process uses gentle touch combined with focused attention to signal safety to the brain. This disrupts the link between the traumatic memory and its emotional response, effectively "deactivating" the amygdala's reaction. As a result, individuals experience relief from the emotional pain tied to past events. Havening has been validated through thousands of case studies, demonstrating its effectiveness in addressing traumatic memories, reducing anxiety, and fostering emotional resilience. How Havening Can Be Used Havening has diverse applications and can support healing and growth in several ways: Healing Past Traumas Many people carry the emotional scars of past events, whether from childhood, relationships, or major life upheavals. Havening helps process and clear the emotional pain attached to these memories, creating space for greater peace and freedom. Managing Current Challenges Life often throws unexpected challenges our way. Havening provides a way to address these situations as they arise, preventing them from becoming ongoing stressors. Shaping a Positive Future Beyond resolving trauma, Havening can help reinforce positive affirmations and intentions. By aligning your nervous system with your aspirations, you can cultivate resilience and confidence as you work towards your goals. Three Ways to Practise Havening There are three main ways to practise Havening, ensuring accessibility and flexibility for different needs: Practitioner-Led Havening In this method, a certified practitioner performs Havening directly on the client. This allows the client to fully relax while the practitioner guides the process for maximum effectiveness. Guided Self-Havening In this approach, the practitioner teaches the client to perform Havening on themselves during a session. This method empowers clients to take an active role in their healing journey. Self-Havening at Home After learning the technique, clients can practise Havening on their own at home. This makes it a valuable tool for ongoing self-care and stress management. Each method is designed to suit individual preferences and situations, making Havening a versatile and accessible process. Transform Your Life with Havening If you’re feeling stuck, weighed down by past experiences, or struggling to move forward, Havening offers a powerful pathway to healing and transformation. By addressing unresolved emotions that hinder progress, this technique can help you experience life with greater clarity, calm, and purpose. Working with a certified practitioner ensures you receive personalised guidance tailored to your unique circumstances. You’ll also gain the tools to practise Havening yourself, empowering you to continue the work independently and make it part of your daily routine. Ready to Start Your Havening Journey? If you’re ready to let go of past traumas, overcome current challenges, or create a brighter future, I’m here to support you. Together, we’ll work to enhance the quality of your life experience, helping you feel more aligned, confident, and empowered. I can guide you through the Havening process and teach you how to integrate it into your everyday life for long-term benefits. Whether you’re seeking healing, growth, or both, Havening is a science-backed solution to help you thrive. Let’s begin this journey together. Contact me today to explore how Havening can transform your life.

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